I’ve been thinking a lot about how my husband and I fell in love. I think I’ve been craving a deeper connection with him since our lives have been taken over by a newborn.
This weekend we had a rare chance to go out on a date! We had a whole entire day to ourselves without kids, and it was glorious! We don’t get many opportunities to go out on dates since we moved away from family. I haven’t felt comfortable leaving Mr. N. with anyone since he won’t take a bottle, so we haven’t had a date since before he was born (he’s almost 6 months old!).
We didn’t really plan ahead for our date, since we like to be a bit spontaneous. Our plan was to go for dinner and the rest of the day was left open to whatever we felt like doing in the moment. We ended up going to an arcade and playing some pool, which brought us back to our dating days. We did some shopping, and then we attempted to go for a walk, but the path was a sheet of ice, so we figured we would turn around before one of us ended up falling and breaking a hip :P.
How I Fell in Love All Over Again
At some point during the day, my hubby brought up a study he had read where a psychologist named Arthur Aron succeeded in making two strangers fall in love through a series of questions. You take turns answering 36 questions and once you’re done answering the questions, you are supposed to stare into each others eyes for 4 minutes.
Of course we had to try it… I mean, I was already in love with my husband…
But what if I could be MORE in love with him?? Was that even possible?
So I quickly looked it up and found the questions right away.
The questions started out fairly simple; “Would you like to be famous?”, “When is the last time you sang to yourself?”. As the questions go on, they dig a little deeper, causing you to be more and more vulnerable with your answers.
As we went through the questions, we were reminded of the reasons we fell in love in the first place, and we both felt a connection that we haven’t felt in a long time. Even though we spent the day doing everyday things (shopping, and a lot of driving around the city), this day will be one that I look back on as the day I fell in love with my husband all over again.
If your relationship needs a little spicing up, I would definitely recommend trying these questions. If nothing else, you might just learn something about your partner that you didn’t know.
Click the button below to get the questions!
[su_button url=”http://36questionsinlove.com/” target=”blank” background=”#ff6671″ size=”5″ center=”yes” radius=”0″ icon=”icon: heart” title=”36 Questions to Fall in Love”]36 Questions to Fall in Love[/su_button]
If you are in the throws of raising a family and have been neglecting your spouse, head over here and read up on how to keep your marriage strong while raising kids.
Sarah Camille Hipp says
I’ve heard about the 36 questions but I wasn’t so sure if it would have any effect on someone you already love. That’s so nice you and your husband were able to more deeply connect! I’ll have to try them. 🙂
This is a great idea. It is sometimes scary to open yourself up to another person even your spouse. It shows how much you do love them and want to be the best for each other that you can be.
Love these! Having a question time with my husband as we speak.
I love this, my husband and I just recently talked about needed to find time to reconnect. I can’t wait to use these questions!!
I’m hope these questions help you reconnect. That’s so important in a marriage ?
Very thoughtfully presented. I think it is worthwhile for partners to do this type of communication. No matter how well you think you know someone, it is always surprising what you learn with this type of activity.
So true! I was surprised at some of the answers my hubby gave… and I’ve known him for almost 20 years!
My husband and I did the exact same thing with those questions. Our dinner turned into three hours as we went through the list and it was a memorable night. Such a great date night idea!
So awesome! ? I love those kind of dates!
Misty D. says
What a great idea!! Communication in a marriage is extremely important and when you start having kids sometimes you loose sight of that when you are both so wrapped up in taking care of that little one. This would be the perfect date in my opinion!!
Yes! Kids definitely add an extra obstacle to your marriage 🙂